hey my fellow bloggers.
i have some questions about blog etiquette that i'm hoping to get answers to. and who knows? maybe some others in blogville out there are wonderin' too but just haven't gotten around to asking? or maybe some have already asked and i just don't know where to find the answers?
i hope it's the former.
now on to the questions. :-)
1. when a person leaves a comment that ya wanna/needta/should respond to, where's the proper place to do it? on their blog? on ya own?
i don't wanna be rude and not respond at all cuz that's not my style.
but if i respond on their blog, how the heck will they know what i'm referring to if i don't reference it? is it considered rude to re-post some of my own material on someone else's comments, even in the name of good manners?
i also don't wanna look like i'm building up my own comments by responding to my visitor's comment(s). and i'm not sure if people come back to check cuz i sho don't remember to. that's why i like the blogs with the "notify me of new comments" thingies on 'em.
2. what's the proper amount of time alloted for said response, here in bloggerville? one week for single people? two for married? three for married with children? Emily Post, that doyenne of social graces suggests "as soon as possible" for every-day kinda thank-you's.
forgive me Miz Emily but how long might that be in calendar days? some of us need a bit more structure than you're proffering. also ma'am, might commenting in another's blog be considered as an "every day" type of event?
3. how might one correctly phrase an invitation to induce others to visit one's blog? should one offer hors d'oeuvres and spritzers as an incentive? cake and punch? or should promises of food be made only after the invitation has been accepted?
4. how long should one plan to entertain first-time guests? my personal thought is that anything over two hours for a first visit borders on overstaying one's welcome. unless all parties mesh exceedingly well. in which case i'd be willing to stretch the visit to three hours.
but again, i'm asking, so if anyone already knows the bloggerville standard time frame for welcoming one's first-time visitors, please forward this info to me.
5. in the matter of subsequent visits, when is it acceptable for one to invite the new friend to come again? (assuming everyone minded their p's and q's on the first visit and all are amenable to continuing the relationship).
6. speaking of friends and relationships, what happens if the invitee proves to be "difficult" and one regrets the invitation? should one then keep an eye out for the rude one(s) and pretend to be on vacation when/if they come by unannounced for future visits? (as rude people are known to do...)
7. when visiting another's blog, is it polite to drop by with additional people (say, mummy or best friend Lily) without asking? i probably would not, as i'm an anonymous blogger and my continued well-being hinges on keeping my identity secret. however, i'm asking the question for the benefit of those who want/need to know.
8. should one go bearing gifts when visiting another's blog? if so, what kinds of gifts are deemed acceptable? something small and unpretentious like a case of Aquafina? or would something more substantial be in order, say a bottle of Vieuve Cliquot (Yellow Label Brut, not La Grande Dame)? or a case of Badoit for those who don't indulge in the sour grape...
9. how often is too often to stop by another's blog before one has worn out one's welcome?
10. would one be considered highfalutin or showy for commenting on a large number of posts on another's blog? why or why not?
sunday, august 12, 2007
11:59 p.m.
editors's note: this post has been on hold for several days now whilst awaiting more inspiration. i've fallen asleep several times, eaten more than a few meals, drank copious amounts of liquid, and made numerous trips to the bathroom. all the while hoping to complete this post with enough humor to make you, dear reader, at least crack a smile.
if i've succeeded in doing at that, i'm happy. if not, stay tuned. i'll be back to clean this one up at a date and time to be determined...
that is all.
1 comment:
This is what I do....it's long, convoluted, and possibly pretentious, BUT....I respond first off in my own blog in a mass comment, with a response to each person's comment clearly marked by me bolding the commenter's name, and then skipping a line between responses. Then....if it's a new commenter, I go to their site to try to find an email addy if blogger didn't provide me with one. Once someone is in my gmail address book, I can just hit their name, and copy/paste my response to them via email also. This takes time, email addresses, and several open tabs, but I find it worth it.
I almost prefer email, because I am BAD about not returning to sites to check and see if someone responded to my comment. Especially since so many times, comments are basically ignored.
If I want to let someone know I responded to their most recent comment at my site and I have no way of getting them back over there or notifying them via email, I return the visit to their website, leave a comment on a post of theirs which strikes my fancy, and then "...btw, I responded at my site to your comment/s, come check 'em out if you want to..." or something like that. And let that person know that you always respond to comments. That way, you've returned the visit and the comment, so you've left them with something that makes them happy, and you've invited them back over to your blog. Could be the start of a great bloggy relationship!
Having said that, I ALWAYS reply to my comments. It may take me a few days, but I do eventually get around to it, or publicly announce in another post that I can't...
I also have the iReply badge on my blog.
You gave me an idea, with all the food offerings. Got an email addy?
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